It occurs to me that most people don’t understand the art behind sliding into a girl’s DM, that’s why they get rejected and sometimes come to cry on the timeline.
From my recent findings, many guys really suck at this and they are giving us a bad name. Here are some tips to help you.
It’s frankly annoying. If you don’t know what to say, a simple “Good Morning, how are you doing today?” will suffice.
Also, please do not abbreviate. No girl wants to see “Xup, how u doin?”.
Most ladies look at your avi if it’s recognisable or your handle. If it’s foreign to them, they might not reply. It’s best to at least banter on the TL once or twice before sliding in
Don’t be predictable. Good morning is okay but it’s boring. You won’t get her attention with “good morning”.
If you have been engaging each other on the TL previously, you can say something like “It will be criminal if I don’t continue the conversation here”
This will definitely make her smile a bit which makes it easier to continue with the conversation.
Don’t just type Hi or Hello or Hey without following it up with something. They are probably getting 30 of such messages.
Make it catchy and she will click on it.
It ruins shit. If you want to see more of her in order to make an informed decision about her beauty and physical endowment, say something like ” it seems I’ve seen you on Instagram, what’s your Instagram handle?” then go and check pictures. Simple
You can’t be saying “baby” “my love” when you just started talking. You also can’t be talking dirty except she has given you the vibe either from the TL or there. Know how to read the other party
Don’t say, “tell me about yourself ”
Say, ” well, I want to get to know you more but let me tell you a bit about myself though”
This way, you have given her a format to follow and the conversation will flow naturally from there.
Don’t text in the afternoon except you see she’s active on which ever social network you are on. People have jobs you know!
If you want to Slide in and get the ball rolling, target after 4pm or in the afternoon (if it appears that she’s active at the time)
Man! You got to use your sense
Once you see a hot picture with numerous engagements, best believe there are over 100 thirsty guys saying rubbish. Don’t DM. It will get lost in the rubble
Wait till the fame dies down
also, make sure she follows you before you DM. You can even say “kfb” in the TL because if she doesn’t, it will fall into requests. Most of them don’t accept the message requests.
Do your research, DM before she blows
You are a Man. Once you text twice and you don’t get a reply over a span of 5days, delete that shit and move on like it never happened. You win some, you lose some. Don’t go writing “hello” 77 times in someone’s DM and end up on @SubDeliveryZone
I won’t DM some people because I know thEy want money and I don’t have money. Respect yourself
You know some want marriage, if you don’t want, don’t DM. They will access you and probably never answer
However,this is not to say that you should be scared about DMing ladies with plenty followers. DM them! Nothing dey happen
They are normal people, just with plenty followers. If you engage them well, they can eventually fall in love.
Let it flow naturally
You can also say something like ” too bad Twitter doesn’t have an audio feature, would really love to hear your voice” Then go ahead and ask
NOTE: DON’T DO THIS IS ON THE FIRST DAY
Be a gentleman and take your L in peace. No silly talks about Shiloh or the likes.
Also, and I cannot emphasize this enough., DON’T SEND DICK PICTURES. HAVE SOME SELF RESPECT FOR YOURSELF. You can read our article on the best ways/tips to improve on oneself.
Article By: S. Adeniyi Ajose Esq.
Follow Adeniyi on twitter: @niggazoid
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